I’ve only been out of the military for a relatively short period, in contrast to the amount of time I was in. Since my exit from the military, I have noticed a trend. It seems that people are more than willing to tell others, how horrible their lives are, or how they are continually down on their luck.
At first, my heart went out to the many people I crossed paths with. Sometimes I was able to help them out or help them to figure out a problem. Other times, all I could say was, “good luck and God bless”.
I have begun to understand that these people really don’t have any massive problems. Instead, they’ve learned that it is much more advantageous to highlight things that are not necessarily problems, rather, they don’t want people to know how good they actually have it.
I’ll admit, I am quite gullible, and I am always willing to lend a hand. I tend to believe what I’m told, unless it is too far out. But, this recent discovery has me wondering…
How many more people are quick to discuss their “issues” rather than their blessings? Is this merely a negotiation technique or a method to exploit handouts?
I guess, when people see a person who is in relatively in good spirits on a regular basis, they are perceived to be living the good life. That may or may not be true. In my case, my life is pretty good, better than I deserve quite frankly. But that doesn’t mean that I couldn’t use a helping hand from time to time, as well. I must say though, I do find it hard to reach out and ask for help, so that part is on me.
– How do you maintain a working relationship with a person who is always complaining?
– At what point do you finally turn away?
– Have you ever confronted such a person?