Your Annoying Little Brother: Let People Fail on Their Own: TidePodcast Episode 108

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15 thoughts on “Your Annoying Little Brother: Let People Fail on Their Own: TidePodcast Episode 108

  1. Oh absolutely! We have to let people try their way, sink or swim and learn what works and what doesnt.

    I’m not gonna say I’m a leader, but I was in management at the company I worked for. My style was to encourage the staff to think for themselves, problem solve, make decisions. I would back them up (unless they were completely off the wall) then privately discuss how well they did or what they could have done differently.

    It’s the same thing in life. Be there to help and support, but let people find their own way. Its actually kind of arrogant to think that we know the only, best way to do something.

    1. bottomlesscoffee007

      Yeah Granny, it’s how people have attempted to assert total control since the beginning of time. Evil permeates in the most well grounded intentions.

    1. bottomlesscoffee007

      Yeah, same here Hawk. If we want freedom for ourselves, then it is paramount that we extend the same freedom to those we disagree with.

  2. Letting people fail on their own is alright. But I also think that they deserve a warning from those who might know more. Would you not shout: “Watch out?” if you saw someone directly in front of a speeding bus? I would. They might be suicidal and want to die. But they might not be aware. I might help them survive.

  3. Btw, I don’t do Instagram, but I see some bloggers have their Instagram attached to their blog. Maybe that’s something you’d be interested in doing? People might be more inclined to follow or check you out on there if they had some visual aids here on the blog.

  4. This was a provocative topic and while I know you’re generalizing, I’m not sure I can fully agree with your point of view. (I hope I’m not speaking out of turn. If I am, then, of course, you have the right to delete this. However, I mean no disrespect.)

    I do believe in letting people do the best they can; however, I also believe that sometimes people need an extra set of hands at times. When we work together, my struggle may be your strength and your struggle may be my strength; therefore, together we might cover more ground as a group than as individuals. I tend to think in terms of success builds upon success and failure tends to create a downward spiral. While you can’t hold someone’s hands indefinitely, I do think that we learn from one another. Hell, otherwise, we’re throwing the baby out and telling the child to sink or swim. What parent or authority figure/person-in-charge does that? That’s a bit harsh for me. In a work setting, even in a family setting, mentors help others succeed because they are able to teach skills, provide a patient ear, and offer encouragement and wisdom. Youth offers fresh ideas and lots of energy; but damned little beats experience.

    All I know is that it’s good to stretch ourselves. If we feel that we can’t or we’ll fail and get ousted, that stymies people. I don’t think we are ever the same person day-to-day. I think we continue to learn and grow or we stagnate and then decline. Sometimes we get stumped. It’s always great when we can figure out things by ourselves; however, sometimes we figure things out with others’ help and that works as well.

    In my opinion, a good leader understands people and how to use the dynamic of different people’s talents and temperaments to reach goals. They build and create cohesion not division. If we are talking about hiring someone for a specific position, then the hiree should be properly vetted to make sure they’re going to be a good fit/asset to the team or for the job before they are actually hired. You can’t always know they’ll succeed in their role; but once they’re in, they should be embraced as part of a team that is about reaching the goals of the company, not creating hostility or telling them to figure it out or leave. I can’t think of a poorer use of time and resources. Sorry. Maybe, I’m missing something.

    Did you have a specific scenario or situation in mind when you tackled this? Because that’s when you can really figure out the best way to handle something, rather than dance around in generalizations. And listen, I deal in generalizations, too. So, I’m not saying that generalizations aren’t warranted, I’m just saying that is often better to deal with specifics because generalizations often just won’t provide the best answer or solution to a specific issue. When has it ever been the case where one-size-fits-all?

    Anyway, I look forward to hearing more of your podcasts. I like listening and thinking about what someone else’s take is on a subject. It helps me clarify my own point of view. Mona

    1. bottomlesscoffee007

      Mona, thanks for the listen. My intent wasn’t to discourage advice or warnings. I agree with your synopsis actually. My message was more or less don’t attempt to control others, if you yourself don’t wanna be controlled.

    2. bottomlesscoffee007

      When you can step back and let people fail, they just might surprise you and achieve greatness. That signals to them that you trust them and that signals to you that you cannot always predict failure.

      The term “let people fail on their own”. Doesn’t focus on the potential failure, rather the potential to rise to greatness once the reigns are no longer being applied.

      Let people succeed and fail on their own, it’s a powerful way to learn valuable lessons and to realize that failure is not the worst thing in the world. Learn how to take the value from failure and apply it next time.

      Trial and error perhaps.

  5. Yep, absolutely agree! Different things work for different people – it’s not cut and dry. Let them make their own mistakes – it’s the best teacher.
    Very deep and true. Well done.

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