When Temptation is Presented

What’s the difference between a female grinding her ass on a male’s groin and a male pressing his groin into a female’s behind? The obsession with alcohol consumption and drug usage between the sexes only increases the chances of criminality. Whether she grabbed him or he grabbed her, is completely inconsequential, by this point. The willful volition to be in a space where this is not only highly encouraged but takes place by the second, seems to cause itself.

If you show up to “celebrate”, “party”, “dance”, fight” or to “resist” or even to just “protest” you gotta be ready all the time. The more you place yourself in these places of depravity, the greater the chances that, one day, one night, you’re gonna get FUCKED! No one is immune. At some point, the tax man will come and demand his pound of flesh. By that point, it is already too late, no one will rescue you, no one is coming.

If you wanna play, eventually, you will be made to pay. The perpetrator may be found out, one day. Only time will tell. You will never recover, completely, the images and memories have the potential to haunt you, when you do not expect them. For the rest of your life.

Once you pass the threshold, you’re on your own. You know the risks, even if you do not acknowledge them. Criminality happens, if you’re dressed to impress, you may seem inviting. The trouble is out there, waiting on someone just like you.

Blaming others, who were not present, only enables more to become victims, since the criminal and the actions are never addressed to the appropriate authorities or parties. Go ahead, “shake your tail feather” take off your clothes since “it’s getting hot in here” and don’t forget to dress to your body type. Twerk and grind to your heart’s content. It’s only a matter of time before someone calls your bluff.

20 thoughts on “When Temptation is Presented

  1. The way you’re talking, it sounds like you’re on verge of raping any woman who’s wearing a scanty outfit and twerking. People talk like men have no brains, no self-control. Like they’re mindless animals who will rape anyone showing sideboob. The sexism goes both ways here.
    If modesty had any impact on rape, then women in hijabs would never get raped. But they do. What about people in humid, tribal cultures who wear basically nothing? Are they constantly aroused and raping 90% of the time? Of course not.
    Outfits are cultural. How much you wear or don’t wear has no bearing on how sexy you are. How sexy you are has no bearing on whether or not you get raped. Often, the people who get predated upon are people who are already downtrodden, afraid, or vulnerable.
    Granted, a person shouldn’t go out at night alone, or get drunk and pass out at a frat party. But they should be ABLE to do those things without getting raped, don’t you think? Shouldn’t that be the ideal we strive for?

    1. bottomlesscoffee007

      I don’t understand why you’re accusing me? What is this minority report nonsense?

      I’m not condoning any criminal behavior, all I’m saying is be aware of the dangers that you put yourself in. Just because rape is a crime doesn’t stop it from happening. If you don’t use common sense in your day to day life, odds are you’re gonna get into trouble along the way.

      You cannot expect to act however you like and nothing will ever happen to you. This fraudulent idea of safety is exactly how this happens.

      You don’t sue the casino when you lose all of your money? But if you take your checkbook along with you, odds are your gonna cash a few checks before the night is over.

      This idea that suddenly rape is bad and people need to be taught better only enables more rape to happen. Blaming all boys and all men doesn’t do anything.

      Rape has been illegal and criminal throughout the world, especially in America since the pilgrims landed on Plymouth Rock.

      The more you expose yourself to rape, the higher the chances are you will be raped, whether the places you go, the clothes you wear or the company you keep.

      Then again you never hear Sarah Palin talking about being attacked, since she carries a gun everywhere she goes. Perhaps taking your own protection into your own hands is the first step to not being a victim. If you cannot protect yourself, how can you expect others to protect you?

      Please tell me exactly how what I am saying sounds to you that is what a rapist would say? What is it that rapist say before they rape someone?

      Then again, where is the outrage for the men that are raped in prison? Crickets.

      Don’t attempt to intimidate me from exercising my 1ST Amendment Right by making false accusations against my character. Just because you don’t like what I have to say.

      1. You are victim blaming (also, they like to be called survivors, not victims). The way you portray it in this post is that the women are getting raped because of THEIR actions, as if holding only them accountable for being raped and not the rapist.
        “if you’re dressed to impress, you may seem inviting”
        “Twerk and grind to your heart’s content. It’s only a matter of time before someone calls your bluff.”
        — instead, how about, “don’t violate this person just because they’re dancing with their friends and you’re a horny dog”. Why is all the blame being put on a woman (or any rape survivor, whatever gender) just because of the clothing they wear? Fresh Hell is right, clothes are cultural, rape happens to all different people, of all ages, regardless of clothing styles. Rape happens because there are monsters out there, disgusting monsters with no self-control. This isn’t the survivor’s fault, it is the monster’s fault!

        Also, unless someone has actually been sexually assaulted, had their very own body unwillingly used and forced upon, damaged, without their consent, I don’t think anyone can truly make any kind of valuable comment about this entire situation because they simply don’t know how awful it is.

        1. bottomlesscoffee007

          It takes two people for a rape to happen. The idea that one day criminality will be erased from society is completely idiotic. To suggest that this should not happen, thereby it won’t doesn’t fix anything. If you are unwilling to protect yourself then thereby you make it easier for someone else to harm you.

          1. I agree that people should definitely be safe and take precautions, for sure. The world is too dangerous not to, unfortunately. I’m not suggesting they shouldn’t, it’s just too bad that rape survivors get most of the blame any many people’s eyes, saying “they should have been more careful” or “they should have worn something else”. It’s too bad that people can’t be themselves and enjoy a social event, because there are disgusting creeps out there that rape people.

            And if a rape survivor takes a long time to come out about a rape, it could be that they were ashamed, upset, not wanting to ever have to think about that event again; too painful. Also, many rapists are people that the person knows and they probably give death threats, or other threats, scaring the person into not talking.

            1. bottomlesscoffee007

              If you don’t report in a timely manner, how can you expect justice? I understand it can hurt, and be scary. It’s up to the individual.

              The more that come forward and say how they never said anything either, seems to not only set a trend, but it shows no effort to change that trend.

              If you don’t speak up in a timely manner, how can you expect anyone to believe you? If you have no proof, how can you expect anyone to believe you.

              Belief is replaced with empathy and social justice rather than actual justice. The angry mobs have never solved anything.

      2. “I don’t understand why you’re accusing me? What is this minority report nonsense?
        Please tell me exactly how what I am saying sounds to you that is what a rapist would say? What is it that rapist say before they rape someone?”

        ~~I know you’re not actually thinking of raping every woman who twerks in scanty clothing. That was my whole point, though maybe I didn’t make it clear enough. Any decent guy isn’t going to do that. Only truly awful people would do such a thing. I’m saying, even though you are NOT that guy, you seem to think every other guy is that guy. You are holding every other guy to a different standard than you hold yourself. Far from blaming all boys and all men, I’m expecting more of them than you do. I expect them to act like decent human beings instead of animals.

        “Rape has been illegal and criminal throughout the world, especially in America since the pilgrims landed on Plymouth Rock.
        This idea that suddenly rape is bad and people need to be taught better only enables more rape to happen. Blaming all boys and all men doesn’t do anything.”

        ~~We can both agree that rape is bad, and we can both agree that women should take measures to be safe and protect themselves. The issue at the heart of it is, where do we draw the line? At what point do common sense safety precautions turn into victim blaming?
        I feel like you’re really outraged because you’re trying to defend your gender. I think you feel attacked for some reason. But nobody’s attacking “all men and boys.” That’s too absurd. This is about rapists in particular, which could be any gender.

        “I’m not condoning any criminal behavior, all I’m saying is be aware of the dangers that you put yourself in. Just because rape is a crime doesn’t stop it from happening. If you don’t use common sense in your day to day life, odds are you’re gonna get into trouble along the way.
        You cannot expect to act however you like and nothing will ever happen to you. This fraudulent idea of safety is exactly how this happens.
        You don’t sue the casino when you lose all of your money? But if you take your checkbook along with you, odds are your gonna cash a few checks before the night is over.
        The more you expose yourself to rape, the higher the chances are you will be raped, whether the places you go, the clothes you wear or the company you keep.”

        ~~I can be reasonably sure that most people don’t want to be raped. I can be reasonably sure that most people do what they think they need to do to not get raped. But some people aren’t as smart as other people. Some people were raped as children, and have a screwed up sense of what is dangerous. Some people just have bad luck.
        Do you blame people who get their houses broken into for being robbed? Maybe they shouldn’t have had such nice things. Maybe they shouldn’t have painted their house such a pretty color. Maybe they should have lived their life with their blinds drawn. Maybe they should have bought a house in a better neighborhood.
        Can’t you see the fallacy here? You’re saying a person shouldn’t live freely because someone might hurt them. You’re blaming the homeowner, not the thief. Clearly, the thief is the one at fault here. But you’re writing them off, because it’s easier for you to believe that the person who was hurt deserved it, than it is to believe that life is unfair.
        But shit happens. Often it happens to nice people who deserve better and who didn’t do anything wrong.

        “Then again you never hear Sarah Palin talking about being attacked, since she carries a gun everywhere she goes. Perhaps taking your own protection into your own hands is the first step to not being a victim. If you cannot protect yourself, how can you expect others to protect you?”

        ~~I don’t think we should answer violence with greater violence. I think it’s gentler and more effective to start at the root of the issue with dialogue, to change the way people think. I think this grassroots culture shift is a more effective and less costly solution to the problem. Of course it won’t fix everything. But it might change the way people think, and it might make people on the edge of an impulse second guess themselves before doing something wrong.

        “Then again, where is the outrage for the men that are raped in prison? Crickets.”

        ~~I’m definitely outraged by men being raped in prison. Surely nobody thinks this is OK.

        “Don’t attempt to intimidate me from exercising my 1ST Amendment Right by making false accusations against my character. Just because you don’t like what I have to say.”
        ~~ Heh, pretty sure you can’t be intimidated by debates from random bloggers.

        1. bottomlesscoffee007

          When it comes to criminals and crime, for some reason rational people are expected to narrow the gap and make up for the actions they didn’t commit. Law abiding people are the only ones who are made to compromise.

          All of this talk around rape and sex crimes ignores the individual criminals.

          All you can do is prepare yourself to defend. You mentioned your home being broken into. When a storm is on the horizon you buy a case of water in preparation, you evacuate, you take measures to try and ensure your safety.

          If your home is broken into, you get a better lock or you move.

          All I’m saying is be prepared. Don’t allow yourself to be taken easily. They may overpower you, but the more you prepare, the easier it becomes to strike back.

          The muscle memory needs to be repetivly trained to go into action and effect. The more we “hope” that things get better, the easier and easier it becomes for us to be obliterated.

          We must be people of action. Take your own life into your own hands. The only thing that stops bad violence is greater good violence.

  2. I am all for self-defense when the occasion calls for it. I just don’t think that dressing or acting like a puritan is any kind of self-defense. Going out with a young crowd and doing young people things like partying, dancing, or protesting does not lead to rape. Just because a girl is out looking for a fling doesn’t mean that the guy who’s out looking for a fling is going to be driven wild by her miniskirt and lose his mind and rape her in a froth.
    People get raped in their own homes by their spouses. People get raped in church. It doesn’t have anything to do with what you’re doing or how you’re dressing.
    A rapist isn’t looking for simple sexual satisfaction. Their actions are more based upon anger, and power, and punishment.

    1. bottomlesscoffee007

      People get run over at protests as well. First, acknowledge that the world is a dangerous place, second, plan and prepare. Nothing is guaranteed. Criminals look for the path of least resistance, criminals are opportunists.

  3. This and that aside, I’d like to go back to the skimpy dresses, etc. Yes, a man should not jump on a woman just because she is practically naked, BUT! Nobody seems to talk about the fact that women often dress that way to attract/ arouse men. Like you mention – they do the grinding. Saying that they are “just having fun” is stupid beyond reason. Throwing builders off a bridge onto a highway is fun, too, but it doesn’t mean that I should do it, or that it wouldn’t get others and me in harms way.

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