Porn Addiction and The New Male

Ever since the inception of the feminist and the temperance movements, it seems that more and more men are seeking their sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Female empowerment often leads to more women and men being lost in the sanctity of love and marriage, both parties competing for their own slice of the economic power pie. Competing either against each other or their peers, trying to get ahead, without ever considering the compromises to themselves and their partners. So now the latest stepping stool in the feminist movement is pornography addiction by men. An addiction so powerful, that it allows the woman in the relationship to attain the proper amount of latitude to seek out her professional goals and dreams, but not enough for both husband and wife to truly appreciate each other and help each other out.

Respect for women and their troubles that they may face when climbing the ladder towards perceived success. Only to be let down by their chosen mate when they catch them in the selfish act of sole pleasure. Whatever happened to husband and wifely duties? When did empowerment lead to more and more relationships ruined and children left to decide between parents? Female sexuality has been promoted to a point of absurdity, in place of professionalism, women are sexualizing themselves beyond reproach. Meanwhile, their husbands are left to respect and stand back while their wives doll themselves up for work. Only to be let down when their granny panties and sweatpants are donned after a hard day at the office. Don’t get me wrong, I understand the requirement that is put on professionals to look and act professional. But sacrificing our relationships for the attainment of nicer houses and cars, seem to be more and more self-defeating, when we are left by our spouses.

I am not advocating for pornography or the sexual enslavement of women. But we are heading towards a catalyst of epic failure, when men and women must decide to either support each other, or both head out into the world, with both expecting support and latitude from the other in their journey towards riches and power. More families are more exhausted now more than ever in our history, the pressure to provide for and support is higher than ever in our history. And it seems that the more respect that is demanded, the more men and women will not seek each other out. Marital relations are just as important as every other aspect of marriage, but the physical and emotional relationship between husband and wife are even more important.

To ignore your spouse and their needs is the ultimate sign of disrespect. Then when infidelity is thrown into the mix whether it be on a screen, in a magazine or with another person outside of the union, then it is often deemed unrepairable. Both parties will go their separate ways, hoping to mend their wounds and redeem their own self-worth, and often times, with other people. It is said that the smallest things in life bring the most happiness. Why then is the simple act of love overlooked? Porn addiction is blamed and men are blamed for being weak. Weak for wanting and missing their woman. Weak for needing physical contact, weak and wrong for giving into their carnal desires. Again, I am not providing any excuses for inexcusable behavior. unfortunately respect and empowerment only go so far.

Too far, respect and empowerment more often than not lead directly to unhappiness and unfulfillment, felt by both parties catastrophically. Men and boys are being taught by women, social media, movies and television more than ever that masculinity is best used respecting and empowering. Men must treat women like women and men like men Women must do the same. Appreciating both men and women for being men and women is the first step towards happiness and fulfillment. Expecting men to be manly and women to be ladylike empowers us all, equally and evenly.

Pornography is easily and quickly replaced with a willing husband or wife. Addiction is real, but replacing sex with respect and empowerment, only deepen the divide between the sexes. The appreciation of true love and beauty between a man and woman, is the remedy for any fantasy. Become the fantasy, there’s a reason why we chose each other. If we replace the other with career, responsibility or respect, then we will also be replaced.

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